Tue 25 Sep 2007
Our society and culture is spiraling downward. Morals mean little today. Sleeping around is the new god that people tend to worship. Things that were one day unspeakable for a myriad of reasons are now front page fodder. Tell me, do you think this woman’s parents are proud of her this morning – from the front page, left side of today’s New York Post:
Mom ain’t framing this front page. At one time, publicly discussing what happens behind a bedroom door (or in the case of the Knicks’ intern, in the backseat of Stephon Marbury’s truck) was a no-no. It was viewed upon as tawdry. Forget the fact that the “deed was done” in the first place, but to tell others or even bragging that you’ve had sex was at one time was viewed negatively by society. Yes, pigheaded guys would “brag” to their buddies, but to put a billboard up proclaiming your sexual conquests was a no-no.Today in areas of our society and culture, it is just the opposite.
MySpace is a social-networking site that allows people to communicate with friends. A good chunk of MySpace is just fine, but a huge number of these pages are filled with teens and college students talking about their sexual conquests, how much they like to drink, and other various issues that were once thought to be private. One page that I read this morning while researching for this post said he has “banged 65 hos” so far while in college. In fact in parts, the social network MySpace rips the scabs off the festering wounds of a society gone wrong. Do you know how many college students or just anyone on MySpace post pictures in their various forms of drunkenness? Or that they use language that is not permissible in professional life? Or that they post something on their MySpace blog that has come back to bite them in the backside?
I’ve been counseling (the only word I can think of for it) a just-out-college woman who attends a church in Rockland County. She has a number of issues she is trying to deal with, one extremely serious. But in the course of our talking, her now-shuttered MySpace page came up; it has caused her lots of trouble. See, she had a MySpace page all through college and wrote about her sexual exploits; her weekends filled with parties, alcohol, and drugs; and how many times she was so drunk or drugged out that she missed class. She thought, “Heck, it was on MySpace and only young people know about it.” She thought that no businessman or woman would know anything about that social-networking site and be able to find her.
Well, her bosses found out about her MySpace page and fired her. The reason? Her actions were not in conformance with their company’s behavioral policy. It didn’t matter it was “private” page, but that her actions were so disgraceful, the owners of the company didn’t want her working there.
And this story isn’t just random. People who have these pages are getting fired or are facing termination for these MySpace pages. And when you talk to these college and just after graduation people who still have these pages with stupid pictures and moronic comments written by so-called “Friends,” they think nothing is wrong. For these young people to think that society has to accept their debauchery as OK is just stupid.
We don’t.
UPDATE: MySpace, as a whole, is not a bad site. Just that some people who are using this networking site are not thinking. When “you grow up,” sometimes things you did as a young person are NOT forgotten by others. Posting that you like to drink and that you sleep around doesn’t give prospective bosses confidence.
September 25th, 2007 at 11:29 AM
I had a MySpace page when in college, but the day I graduated, I deleted it. throughout school I didn’t really care who read what I wrote or saw some of the sick pictures I put up there, but when I started look for a job I figured something out: Human resource offices do background checks and sometimes they find this stuff.
People have to think before posting.
Annie
September 25th, 2007 at 11:35 AM
I still have a Myspace page. But I think they have become a waste of time. I rarely post anything anymore.
Pastor, I live in Colorado Springs and I would like to write you about something that I won’t post here. How can I reach you? Thanks.
September 25th, 2007 at 11:37 AM
MySpace is for babies. Facebook rules!
September 25th, 2007 at 11:46 AM
Pastor, I think all of us got your blog post frpm our friend who posted it on her MySpace blog.
You make great points, but when you’re young and stupid you do stupid things.
Willie in Denver
September 25th, 2007 at 12:02 PM
Still a friend on MySpace. haven’t updated since December.
September 25th, 2007 at 12:18 PM
Annie’s right. Keep MySpace simple. Keep it clean
September 25th, 2007 at 1:02 PM
i love myspace. you should to.
September 25th, 2007 at 1:48 PM
People shouldn’t laugh when it comes to myspace. I got a warning to delete my page by my higher ups. Of course I scrapped it. I maybe only 26 but my career means more to me than a myspace page.
Sammy Dee in CO.
September 25th, 2007 at 2:13 PM
I had lots of drunk pictures on Myspace. Even I got ashamed of them.
September 25th, 2007 at 3:11 PM
I stopped using MySpace, Facebook, and other assorted social networking sites because they take up too much time. MySpace is kind of like cuddle time with your friends, but with everyone in the world joining in the cuddle. All of it is garbage. Give me the old telephone and texting.
September 26th, 2007 at 5:53 AM
To answer the question in your first paragraph, yes, unfortunately I think there’s a pretty good chance her parents are proud of her.
Anastasia